What to do when you fall for someone who cannot really love you back.
When you fall in love for someone who can’t actually love you back, then you have to know that you are standing in a strange land where nobody knows how to help you escape.
Dealing with both of love and loss was not already a challenge; there are some more upsetting situations where pain and defenselessness just becomes intolerable. Getting love and then being denied of it is the common course of things but when you fall for someone who doesn’t have the ability to love you back hurts like hell. You actually lobe a person and they agree to get together but in quite, and when life goes on, you will eventually see that they are not capable of loving you not like the way do. And that is the point where things get tough.
You see them participating and doing their best but you will never see them spoiling.
Whatever they have done for you and for this kind of relationship, they will just do it because they feel controlled. You will get a cold ‘I love you too’ in reply in your ‘I love you,’ you will eventually get a date when you ask for one and you will always find yourself to be the one who always asks. You will become the center of the relationship when there is not supposed to be any center at all, you will decide for things alone even though it should be a mutual decision, and you will feel alone even you are always with him/her.
Some people are just made to provide half of whatever they can actually give, maybe its love or attention. Even if the person you have fallen for is able to give back your love, it will always be in halves and parts. You will never get a completely meaningful ‘I love you too’ or a deeply honest answer. That is the thing about the people who are not able to love. Although you will receive mixed feelings, you know you have fallen for someone who is not close to the reality of love, who is not able to see how wonderful and great love is. You have started loving someone who knows how to play the practices of love but doesn’t know how to mean it. You have loved someone who can’t love you back.
Half love is not healthy
It is unhealthy to work with half love and it is like consuming an unpleasant half diet. It will eventually leave you with a feeling of blankness, as well as void and doubt. You know that you are with someone but you don’t actually feel special. You know that you have someone but the fact is that, you don’t really have them. And beside of all the feelings of incompleteness, you will begin a second-guessing and start to doubt yourself.
Half love is what actually makes your doubt for yourself grow and become a massive complex which can actually stay inside your for a while just like a lethal virus. The emotional nonappearance of your partner makes you wonder if half love, half attention is what you really deserve. Your start to settle things down and adjusting for average and you begin to feel fine with them not going an extra mile for you because, at least, you have someone unlike numerous single people out there. That point is where you are doing, as well as looking at things very wrong. Half love has never been healthy and you are only killing yourself by accepting and adjusting with it when you actually deserve full and complete love like other.
Why can’t they feel it?
There are people who cannot put their guards down. For them, love is a faraway land of which they have known nothing about. All they know is that two people can stay together and feeling can only make them look weak. These kinds of people are sick and they badly need a hand. They have been trained that happiness is assured best when they keep every other emotion safe inside their heart. They have been taught to become stone-hearted and love has never been introduces as a solution for them.
This actually gives birth to self-centeredness in these kinds of people. They are protective of their own hearts and they are too busy doing so to see what is going on with yours. For those people who are unable to love, love is just a task which, too, is out of the question for them to do. They can actually fake it but they can never truly make it.
You deserve someone better
Both of half love and divided attention can actually make you feel like it is hard for people to love you. You don’t quit because you can still the love that they are hiding in hopes of getting it out one day. You do all of these things while continuously pouring your own love upon them. Have you ever questioned about what will happen when you run out of love since it’s never been given back for you to always have enough?
You don’t deserve that half love. While in the mess of it, you have already forgotten that there is someone out there who is ready to give to you the love that you deserve, the who will never break your hear every time you give it to her/him. You are not hard to love, and even though you have loved someone who doesn’t know how to love, you can always pull back for your own sake.
You deserve someone better, or should I say the best. Love, in some forms, can be destructive and half-love is one of those kinds of forms. But it is never too late, you can always take the exit and explore things because when you loved someone who could not give it back, how better things will become if you will love some who loves you the same way you have loved them?